“It takes a village to raise a child” Where did this phrase stem from? With a little help from google and Wikipedia, this phrase means:
“To raise a child is an African proverb which means that it takes an entire community of different people interacting with children in order for a child to experience and grow in a safe environment. The villages would look out for the children.”
To me, a village is being surrounded by family and friends that are there through thick and thin. So if you think about it, you’ve most likely been surrounded by a village at least once.
My village contains all different types of “villagers”. I have my FAMILY, CORE FRIENDS and NEW FRIENDS who are unbelievable people and along the way that have transformed to being a part of my circle, my village.
First FAMILY, don’t need to add much here, we are fortunate to have our immediate family here whenever we need them (even when all of them are a flight away).
Second, CORE friends: Being the first of my CORE group of friends to have babies I started to see my true “villagers” I would say. The late nights, spontaneous travel trips have come to end. This makes it hard to keep up with those friends (nothing against them, just different stages of life). Respectfully, I consider those that visit my home and play with my kids part of my village. Sure it could be as simple as hanging around the house (probably boring too sometimes) and are present during most of all the milestones along the way (and vs versa).
Lastly are those new unbelievable people: Jaxton needed kids to play with, I needed to have adult conversations besides my husband. As a first time mom with Jaxton, I had no idea what I was doing so what better way to learn, than from moms. To feel like you weren’t the only one that had a fussy kid, or that wasn’t getting enough sleep at night. What better person to ask about breastfeeding than a fellow mom. Now that I have two, it has become even MORE important to me to have mom friends.
Momming is hard, whether you’re a new mom or have 5 kids, it is still hard. Do not be afraid to reach out, step out of your comfort zone and do not assume you know other people’s stories. Finding a mom village does not have to be difficult, I think we are the ones that make it hard. We live in a digital word where we can connect with other moms through Instagram or FB groups but also neighborhood groups. These places help us connect with people we probably never would’ve met. So go on make a friend 🙂